Finding 'Weekend' in Week-days



A long weekend comes to an end, bringing with it evening blues. The daunting prospect of the coming week ahead looms large, promising chaotic and rushed mornings, endless arguments with the kid, dealing with his studies and doing the routine chores. 

A lament rises from the depth of the heart - why can't weekends last forever? The monotony of daily life slowly edges towards boredom, which brings in frustration, which is amplified 100X every time the kid refuses to co-operate during his studies, which in turn, leads to hot arguments and debates. The kid's capacity to debate against homework, studies and school in general, fills me with both awe and despair. 

Perhaps the problem is, we wait for special days or occasions to be happy. Or maybe, happiness is over-rated. I, for one, am always for contentment over happiness in any given day. For some reasons, happiness scares me while contentment is soothing. I am sure I am not the only one who feels so. There are many who have told me that they get scared to be very happy, lest something bad happen to them. For us confused souls, it is as if happiness is a harbinger of doom! I know, this is completely illogical and irrational. But some habits and some mindsets are hard to change. Hence this tilt towards contentment, all the while wishing that happiness could follow too without any negative side-effects. 

And that brings in a realization. Perhaps we will have to find our 'weekend' in our weekday. May be life is all about finding moments of contentment amidst daily routine, rather than seeking it. Could be that we can add some newness to the mundane chores of the day and find reasons to be contented - or happy, in case of most. 

One of the lessons that life has taught me is that it is in my own mind to change my attitude about a situation, if I cannot change the later. I try to find ways to make the daily chores interesting. Preparing lunch? Listen to some inspiring audible book or podcast. Feeling empty once the chores of morning are done? Lounge on the sofa with a cup of green tea and a paranormal cozy mystery. Dull evenings? Read some inspiring nonfiction. Dinner preparation? Listen to some spiritual discourses. Most of all, I find comfort in following a routine, at the same time, adding something different to the routine every now and then so that it doesn't feel monotonous.

Nothing will be handed over to us in a platter. We ourselves need to find moments of calm amidst the chaos, of peace amidst the confusion and of excitement amidst the daily routine. While we can't control the day, be it week day or weekend, we can alter and control our attitude about it. The chores will be there, so will be the moments of rest and peace. How we choose to deal with them depends on our own mindset. 

Here's to another week that promises to be as chaotic and disruptive as every week is, but which also brings hope of finding our own moments of peace, calm, contentment and joy!

 


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  1. juiOctober 2, 2023 at 8:02 AM

    How true Deepa...this is what I was so wondering...but rightly said by you that we shouldn't wait for weekends to find our happiness!

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    1. Deepa V RamanOctober 3, 2023 at 2:07 AM

      Very true 👍 At any given point of time, we can choose our own way to be contented.

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